Sophia Sharon Boin

Sydney, Australia

My Lou Lou Bear, my Rosebud, my Kayla Rose has, from the very beginning, always been something outside the box. Having moved from our fairy garden in Sydney to mainland China when she was the young age of seven, growing up in, and becoming a permanent resident of Hong Kong in her teens, Kayla grew up entirely outside this box. From the age of 9 Kayla started flying around the world globally on her own. She began her early entrepreneurial escapades with her designing career and tutoring business all before hitting double digits. Always being such a thoroughly unique girl I always knew she was destined for special things and of course I prayed for a beautiful and special soul to walk this path with.

Then the universe answered my prayers…

I had a good feeling about this ‘Vaughn’ I was hearing about. Something inside me was telling me this WAS the someone special. Something about Kayla was glowing in a special way … was this the one? Was this the soul her beautiful gentle and rather unique amazing soul had been waiting for? Something in the planets was aligning … I.C.O.U.L.D.F.E.E.L.I.T …. And was I ever right … 

From the moment I met Vaughn I fell for his charm, his gentle lovingness and his extraordinary soul …. And for sure his delightful humour.

I also knew that he was as ‘weird’ and wonderful as my Rosebud. I knew that whatever they did would be full of adventure and love and spontaneity AND a bit of craziness. I just knew that they would also keep me ‘on my toes’ and they sure have. As I’ve said before … My girl will not just get married, she’ll not just have a wedding … I was right !

Sure enough out of the blue came the phone call, ‘We’re in India, we’re getting married in a few days, COME OVER…’ Not surprisingly I wasn’t able to drop everything and jump on a plane THE NEXT DAY (!!!) to be there in time, and in so doing missed their first phenomenal colourful celebration of love. The date couldn’t be changed, the stars had dictated it but love had not eluded me. I had already fallen for my new son in law, I had already become his MILLY (Mother In Law who Loves You). Even if he did arrive at their first wedding on a Ceremonial Bull ! Yes you heard me right !!!!!! And followed by donkeys !!!

Not long after this they did convince me to jump on a plane and join them on the wild ride they were on in India. I only had ten days notice and probably was aiming to be away for 4 months, so it was a very very hectic prep time. I arrived to lost luggage and two crazy days of nothing short of comical, frustrating, hair-raising Indian airport bureaucracy in trying to find my luggage. As well as this I was whisked away in Tuk Tuks, crowds and madness for my three special outfits required for the upcoming nuptials of dear Ramya Raju – a spectacular of love, tradition, fun, craziness and A LOOOOOOoooooot of guests … well over 1000 …. And this was all before I had gotten over my jet lag, retrieved my luggage or even acknowledged I was now actually in INDIA !!!!!!! Would I expect anything less from these two ??? 

Anyhow it truly was a turbo charged start to my deep positive healing from the loss of Kayla’s Papa, only 10 months prior. These two supported me in the deepest most cherished way, I couldn’t have done it without them.

And then the second wedding I couldn’t get to was the one of deepest emotion; of joy, happiness and extreme sadness and impending loss. Though I couldn’t make this deeply special beautiful NYC wedding I willingly gave my blessing for them to be married immediately with dear Jeffrey. My whole heart supported their beautiful union and I knew Jeffrey and Dorian would be Momma and Papa for Kayla for me for their union. And they so lovingly did, I will always be grateful …  I’m so proud of them fulfilling Jeffrey’s and their wish to be married before Jeffrey’s transition from this Earth. It was a most beautiful ceremony that will always be cherished by them and all the family. Being there was irrelevant to me, all that mattered was love and celebrating with Jeffrey, he was their precious priority in this celebration of love.

I was able to come to New York to see Dorian and family and ‘get to know’, honour and memorialise Jeffrey, so devastating to ‘meet’ him like this and not be able to truly get to know him. His memorial was deeply precious and beautiful. I do feel I got to know him and got a sense of what an amazing precious man he was. I already knew this though, you have to be special parents to make a one in a million like Vaughn, and in amongst his heartbreak Vaughn had already shared so much about his dear Daddy with me.

And there it was, the dictates of the universe had us now on our next adventure … MILLYs and SILLYs

Now here we are Dorian and I united deep in our hearts with losing our precious dear husbands. And Kayla and Vaughn their Papa’s, great amazing Papa’s so very very much too soon. How I wish we weren’t united in this, but the Universe makes its choices and that’s that. 

And before I knew it I had now also become a SILLY … (Sister In Law who Loves you)

I had a wonderful few weeks in New York getting to know Dorian, family and friends. It was a very special time and I am ever so thankful for this, and New York is such a fun crazy place to explore as well. Can’t wait to come back…

In between India and New York we were lucky to have a family trip to Japan to visit my crazy stuntman nephew at Universal Studios in Japan. It only took five minutes for the rest of our family to also fall for Vaughn just as I had. He brought so much joy, hilarity, fun, knowledge and adventure to us all. To be honest… between you and I … I don’t think I’ve ever seen anyone charm my family as quickly as he did, and we all had a blast. We never knew from one minute to the next what these two were going to get up to and drag us into. Between piglet cafes, turning up in kimonos for a family dinner and going to Comicon with my brother and nephew dressed as Jesus (yes really AND with angel wings) I grew to love not only Vaughn more and more but the union of these two – they were so fun, joyous, crazy and loving together. And their luggage, oh my stars, you’ve never seen anything like their luggage !!!!!!!!!!

Vaughn and Kayla were blessed to also get to Australia to introduce him to her beloved Nanna, my mom. We had a few special days with them and her before she transitioned knowing her precious Kayla was in the very best hands. A gift for Kayla’s Nanna as she was leaving the earthly plane. They were here in Australia also for the union of Kayla’s very loved cousin, my niece Taylor and her dear Aaron.

So many special unions, transitions, love and tears … and in amongst all of this you could see the strength, love and support growing between these two unique beings I so proudly call my honeys. We will all be watching you, the sky’s the limit – well actually no it’s not – the universe is perhaps the limit and it too approves of your union. 

May your union be a lifetime of fun, love, adventure and blessings. May you keep your honourable attitude, your spark, your cheekiness and  your desire for knowledge – which both your Papa and your Daddy had in bounds. Keep your wonderful respect for yourselves, each other, your growth and development, your families and the world. Oh and of course may we all be blessed with bountiful babies, love and joy.